Social Experiment: Will I Get More Tips as a Female or Male?
SOCIAL EXPERIMENT NUMBER ONE!!!!
OBSERVED NEGATIVES: -If I messed up on a drink, I got a harder time. Twice I made a mistake intentionally, and both times the recipient would chew me out over it. “Whats wrong with you? Are you sure your a bartender?” or “Come on, pay attention to what you are doing!”-My tips were small- often $1 or $2 on a $15 cocktail.-If someone wanted something from me, they would ask directly “Hey you- can you do this?”
-Younger ladies a few times would assume that their drinks were free or would not tip at all. At one point, a girl received her dink and turned around to walk away from the bar. I had to ask her to pay me. She batted her eyes and said “Awww… but arent I worth it?”
-I tried telling a pushier customer who was teasing me about my soft voice to ‘Hush and drink their cocktail.” They caleld over the manager. it was ugly.
-I received a lot of free shots ordered by both men and women, who often would get them at the end of their meals or drink experiences. Liquoring me up eh?
-If someone was rude, I could flirtatiously be like “Aww stop it, shut up and drink your cocktail.” and it was considered cute and acceptable.
OBSERVED NEGATIVES: -People stayed at the bar. They wouldnt leave. They got their cocktails and watched me work. Even when I ignored them, they stayed..and watched. Almost every single person whop came into the establishment made a beeline for an open stool to stay at the bar instead of at a table… but they would not leave.
-Whenever an older male ordered a cocktail, they would often ask “Do you know how to make a—” as if there was a potential I might not. This did not happen as a male.
-People would flirt, which isnt such a bad thing… but it made it difficult to work. When I was busy, one guy even grumbled “What Im boring you or something? Why cant yo talk to me?”…because I working…. duh. As a Male I could appear busy and I didnt appear rude.
SO WHO WON?
Well the interesting thing is that as a female, I was receiving larger tips. Including that $60 tip on a $40 ticket. However, while the tips were often much bigger… people would tend to stay at the bar to eat and watch me make cocktails. There was a high turn over, which meant while teh cheks were big they werent frequent. When it came to being a male… the tips were almost 50% less. However, people would not stay to watch me make drinks or flirt with me or hang out in general. I could appear busy without seeming rude- and that meant a higher turnover of checks.
FEMALE: $210 in tips
MALE: $340 in tips
THE WINNER IS MALE!
For those of you who are new to who I am, My name is Rain Dove- Rain like from the sky, Dove like the bird. I am an androgynous model and actor working both male and female roles. Outside of my professional life- I carry these gender bending capabilites into the daily activities. I like to call it GENDER CAPITALISM… which means I present myself as whichever gender gets the most out of an envionment, person, or space. Money, love, respect… I don’t care if you think I have dick or a vagina… or if you think I have boobs or pecs— what does it matter? And if it DOES matter… then I want to know why, and I want to know which gender spectrum you feel most comfortable with so I can get the most from our interactions.
In my opinion, it shouldn’t matter what gender I am or how I orgasm. But even in our MODERN DAY SOCIETY it still does… and what you have between your legs can definitely change what you have between people contractually and socially. I don’t believe that only two genders exist… but for the sake of easy conversation Ill use male/female for this write-up.)
Since I am in the unique position to be seen as both a tall dark and mysterious man… and an elegant, highend, edgy female- I decided that something bigger than fashion and film should be done with these looks. I want people to see the way we treat others based on gener, based on perception, based on silly anatomy and hormones. So, I have begun conducting social experiements to determine the TRUE battle of the sexes these days.